In my last post I asked, "But, what gets you and I to the point that we stop our whimpering and/or our buncombe and do what needs to be done?" What is it?
The "WHY" is our weapon against everything, and everyone, especially ourselves, that tells we can't or that why try or what ever else gets in our way. The "WHY" does not have to be the voice of God or what we think of as earth shattering. BUT, it is unique to each of us. Ask your self, Why do I need to exercise? "I want to be healthier", Why do I want to be healthier? I want to feel better. WHY do I want to feel better? I want to be more active? WHY do I want to be more active? SO, I can play with my kids more. "Why.... "Keep asking it until there are no more answers. Jim Rohn stated, "If you take care of the 'why', the 'how' will take care of itself!"
But, that is not enough, then we write it down and keep it in front of us all the time. So that we can use it when we are tempted not to eat right or not to exercise. When I began my weight loss journey I wrote my "WHY" in red dry erase marker on my bathroom mirror so that I was forced to see it at least twice a day. I also wrote it on index cards and attached them to my computer monitor and the visor in my truck. I was confronted with my "Why" every time I turned around.
I still get tripped up in my thinking many times, but I have my "Why" in front of me to help me get back on track.
Art Williams gave a speech to the religious broadcasters convention in 1987 about his philosophy of winning in business titles "Do It". In it he basically says it you want to succeed you have to stop talking about wanting to succeed and do what it takes to succeed. If you have not heard it you should take the time to listen: http://youtu.be/MU5x96zV_iU
I am convinced that the same is true in any area of life... Read more
Motivation... I am the volunteer leader of the youth in our congregation. In June of 2010 we were hosting a multi-congregational youth event. As we began to settle into the program for the night I sat down to here the message and pray that God would speak to the teens gathered. As I lifted my eyes from the prayer I began to look at of of the "leaders" from each of the congregations, what I saw floored me. All of the leaders but one was at an unhealthy weight. It was then That I believe God spoke to me, about me, "Randy, you are a poor example to your children, your spouse, your congregation, and these teens you are "leading". Where are you leading them? What example are you giving them?" Then, Silence!
After six months of trying this and that to lose weight I was in a class called "Self Leadership" (part of the masters program I will finish up this May). Two of the books helped me realize that I was attacking the problem half heartedly with no plan ( Overcoming the Dark Side of Leadership: The Paradox of Personal Dysfunction by Gary McIntosh & Samuel D. Rima and Leading from the Inside Out: The Art of Self-Leadership by Samuel D. Rima.) I developed a plan that included P90X and a fat metabolizing diet similar to the fat-shredder phase in the nutrition guide, but used by some local body builders, the rest is implementation and accountability.
Prior to moving to GA, I ran a small ministry for teens in NC in which God regularly convicted me that, "You cannot teach what you do not know, and you cannot lead where you will not go." That continues to this day. I have to be the example. In the west we like to compartmentalize our lives: physical, spiritual, emotional, work, home, "church"... however it is that we choose to split it up. But, life does not happen in boxes, each area overlaps and affects the others. Getting my physical life in order is changing my mental, spiritual, family life, etc. It is a work in progress that I hope others will see and choose to make changes in their lives.
Well... I am not even sure where to begin this. The lady that I talked about before, as well as several other people are now telling me that it is time to stop. Stop what? I am in the best shape I have since I was a teen, and probably better than that... "You are to Skinny." "You are going to blow away." "You don't look healthy." BLAH BLAH BLAH!
How do you keep a crab in your bucket? A friend told me that if you have only one crab in a bucket it can easily escape, BUT, if you add a second crab they will not escape. Why? The story goes... Everytime one of the crabs is about to get out of the bucket the other will pull it back down.
I am not willing to be pulled back down into the bucket. I don't understand this particular lady, she is a very petite woman, probably at the bottom of her healthy weight range. The heavier men, I get where they are coming from... I still have a bit of a roll around my belly button and I want it gone (I am about 15% body fat). Then, I plan on focusing on adding lean muscle mass. Between the additional loss of BF and the gaining of muscle mass I will hit 7% Body Fat this year.
I weighed in today and dropped another 2.4 pounds for this week. One of the ladies that I see regularly when I weigh in said hey I bet you can fit into these now. She had a bag of large pullover shirts that she handed me. I accepted them thankfully, but I was skeptical that they would fit me now, maybe in a month or two. I took them home and tried them on... several fit well, and the rest will fit well very soon! Remember I was wearing a 4x in January! I was amazed! When I look in the mirror I still see the fat guy wearing a tent for a shirt. I would never have thought to try on a large shirt had she not given it to me. I wonder when I will see the skinny me in the mirror?
Quote for the week:
"All evil is easy. Dying, cheating, losing, and mediocrity are all EASY! Stay away from easy!" Scott Alexander- Advanced Rhinocerology